Into Motivation

As a working mum, you could be forgiven for feeling those pangs of guilt from time to time. Sometimes you feel that whatever you do, you are doing the wrong thing. If you decide to stay home and look after your children, you think that some people are looking down their noses at you, accusing you of not contributing enough. Conversely, if you decide that you are going to return to your career after you’ve given birth, guilt arises here as well, as you think that some people criticise you for “abandoning” your children. It appears that you cannot win. Understand that it is quite usual for you to feel lost and somewhat alone and you might like to consider professional coaching options. This kind of specialised online coaching for women can help you realise that all is not lost, that others are in a similar position to you and that you can really look forward with optimism and confidence.

Whether you decide to go back to a career, or to take the bold move of setting up your own business, more power to you! There’s nothing wrong with your decision and if you want to be successful, you need to be at peace with yourself. A working mum has everything to be thankful for and she should be confident that she is providing for her family and for herself, very well.

Whenever guilt arises, it can lead to confusion and this in turn can lead to negativity and depression. There is a danger that you do not know all the facts about your given situation. You need to reduce your stress levels by finding out all the facts and turning on all those lights in those darkened rooms in your head! By being informed in this way, you can assess all

the risks and opportunities presented to you and form a highly educated view of the situation. By finding out all these facts, you will have demonstrated a great deal of internal strength and this makes you feel so much better as well.

Surround yourself with people who support you and who are positive. All those naysayers need to be in the far distance and better yet, you should creatively erase their contact details! By surrounding yourself with positive people in your support group, you will be able to turn to them with any issues or challenges, getting a lot of confidence from the positive feedback that they will give. This is not to say that you should delegate all the problem-solving to them, quite the opposite. This is definitely a two-way street and by contributing to the value of the group proactively, you’re on the right track. Yet another valuable source of support for you can be found within online coaching.

When you are planning for the big challenge ahead, travel light! This means that you should get rid of anything that is not appropriate from the world all around you. This might be a good time to clear out your workspace and most especially if you are now working from home, either telecommuting or as your own boss. You will be amazed how much more positive and focused you feel, when you have a clear environment all around you.

Amanda Alexander, Director of Coaching Mums, helps pressure-cooked, stressed working mums who long for more hours in the day. Through her coaching programmes and online life coaching courses, Amanda shows mums how to create fulfilling and successful lives. For your simple 5 step guide to balance as a working mum, download our free eBook today!