Into Motivation

To start a new habit only takes 3 weeks and bad ones can also be broken in 3 weeks. If you are still moping over your breakup and consumed over every little thing that wrong – STOP!!! Although it’s quite natural to feel hurt for a long time after a losing someone we love, we have to get up and begin to live again. So get out of those ugly sweatpants and put away the junk food, it’s time to start some new habits and try something new to mend your broken heart!

To begin we have to break all the terrible habits we doing right now. Are you always checking up on what your ex is doing on Facebook or Twitter? With the friends you still share, are you still bringing him up and asking about them? When our hearts are broken we want our ex to feel the same way, we want them to miss us as much as we miss them. You need to make a huge effort to break these habits so you can heal. So, when you are feeling the need to go online or bring up your ex to friend, you need to pinch yourself. Not lightly but hard! By becoming aware of these bad habits you can start to stop yourself from doing them.

With our new self inflected injuries on our arms, we will begin some new habits to divert ourselves from the ones we are trying to stop. In order to feel good about ourselves again so our first new habit will be to complement ourselves. This may feel strange at first but you need to write down 10 really good things about yourself. Here are some examples to help get you going:

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1. I’m very…
2. I really look good in…
3. I’ve very good at…
4. My … really kicks butt!
5. I’m really good at…
6. My … is/are my best feature.
7. I’m also very…
8. I really love my…
9. I have great…
10. One of my best skills is/are…

You are now going to begin everyday by looking in the mirror and repeat these 10 thing like you mean it! No squinting up your face either! The more you say it the more you’ll begin to believe it and begin to like yourself again.

Next we are going to join something new. Is there something you have always wanted to try? Is is learning to cook, rock climb, creative writing or running, what it the new thing you want to join? Choose something fun, you will not only learn a new skill but you will be forced to meet new people. These people are going to get to know you as “single” you, not “couple” you.

As you find yourself involved in more things as single “you” you’ll begin to feel more comfortable with yourself and stop thinking about what your ex is doing. Try these 2 things for 3 weeks and see how you begin to feel. Are you feeling more confident? Are you thinking about your ex less often? Healing our broken heart takes time and we are just starting to retrain how we feel about ourselves.