Into Motivation

So you’ve finally did it, you’ve dumped your ex. Did you do the right thing? Do you want to win your ex back and mend your broken heart? You may want to get him back after breaking up with him if you had a close, loving relationship. You may want to reignite the flame if you have made the mistake of throwing it all away, since you realize that you had a lot invested emotionally in the relationship.

First of all, you need to analyze your own feelings. Are you still deeply in love with your ex? Or are you just feeling a bit overwhelmed at being alone and single? Sometimes that great passion that burns is merely the comfort you felt being in a relationship. You suddenly want your ex back because your life is so suddenly different, everything you did as a couple you now have to face alone. A great relationship does not come from comfort. Love and Respect need to be there as well. If you really do still love your old boyfriend, then you need to try the next step and get him back.

And that next step is examining how he feels about you. Is he hurt by what you did, are you scared he may reject you? Or does he have the same great love for you? You can win him back if the problems you had in the relationship were things like communication, punctuality, or goal setting. But, if the problem was deeper then that, like you no longer felt in love with him, you should start to move on now. Sometimes we mistaken the loneliness we feel after a breakup for the love we think we have for our ex.

You can begin to work on the things that can bring you back together if you have determined that you are still in love and he is your soul mate. For example, remember what you both were like when you first starting dating? Were you a few pounds lighter? Maybe you were involved in different activities.

The longer you were a couple the more you begin to change. You both begin to demand more time with each other and you spend less and less time with your friends or on other things you use to love. You both also may have

let yourselves go because you feel secure in each other’s affection.

If you want to win ex back, you need to go back to being that person he fell in love with.

Another tip is to show him that you are still interested and miss you, but you have to balance it with giving him some space so he can miss you. Don’t call, text, or stalk him. You don’t want to appear desperate.|To avoiding looking desperate, don’t call or text him and also don’t stalk him!|You must avoid texting him, calling him or stalking him, you don’t want to look desperate and make him run the other way.} While you are trying to win him back don’t put any pressure on him, a random text or phone call to let him know you are still interested is fine. By giving him a piece of the person he fell in love with you’ll actually become more desirable to him and you will slowly build the trust up again.

You should focus on yourself and what makes you happy as you give him space as well. You get reconnected to friends and family. You take up hobbies and other things which interest you. You become a more positive person in general. This all helps in win you ex back because they will feel more confident that you won’t hurt them again.

Use your past to your advantage as you get together with your ex from time to time. Like if there was an outfit he loved, then wear it. Or a restaurant you both loved, let him know you were just there. To win him back use your past history, bring up the positive times you had him.

Ask him to come to casual events from time to time. Ask him to join a group of your friends at a bar or invite him to a party. Include him in these events and he’ll know he is still very much part of your life.

Lastly, if you want to mend your broken heart and get back with your ex, just be yourself. Either he’s in love with you enough to trust you again or he isn’t. You shouldn’t change who you are to win him back, you should only be yourself.