Into Motivation

Are you having trouble getting over a guy and need help to mend your broken heart? Letting go of someone who you had a close relationship with is very hard, whether you broke up with him or he dumped you. It takes time and patience to fill the emptiness that you are experiencing in your heart and life. Yet, people do get over a relationship. All it takes is the following five steps to get over the guy you still like.

First, you need to let out the hurt. Understand that it is okay to cry when you are struggling to get over a guy. Writing about the pain helps, so some people keep a journal of their experiences.

One very effective healing method that I have seen some people do is to write a long letter to the ex boyfriend about their relationship. The letter must include the good times and the bad times. Talk about the relationship and how he hurt you. Let it all out. Upon completion of the letter, burn it. That’s correct. Don’t even think about sending it to your ex. Instead, allow the flames to consume the letter and release your pain. That provides excellent closure to the relationship.

The decision that the relationship is over is a decision you now must make. Hanging onto the thought that the ex boyfriend will change and come back to you, will not allow you to move on and get over him.

Do something that symbolizes the finality of the end of the relationship. Taking and exchanging all of your ex boyfriend’s personal property, is an excellent example of this. That over sized t-shirt of his that is so comfortable to sleep in,

do not keep it. And, if there are things too minor to exchange (like a toothbrush), throw them away. His things need to be completely cleared out of your place. It is a way of clearing him from your life.

You need to depend on your friends through this time. Girlfriends are forever whereas guys will come and go until you meet your husband. If you have been in a hot and heavy relationship, for a time you may have accidently overlooked your friends. Reconnecting with your girl friends will not only help you get over the guy but will also be good for your social life.

Also, your break up will be similar to what your girlfriends have experienced. However bad the pain you are experiencing, by sharing their pain will help you to understand that others have survived and you will too.

Due to the break up, you will most likely have extra time on your hands. Most of your spare time was spent with your ex. Use this time productively to get over the guy. Get a new hobby or go to the gym and get in shape.

One of the best things you can do during this period is to join a group or a class. Not only will this introduce you to a new circle of friends but it will take up time you would have spent with your ex.

And, that brings me to my last point, when you want to get over the guy, the best thing you can do is move on. Among the new friends you make in your class or hobby, your old friends and the activities you do to fill up your time, you will come out as a new person.

Moving on is the best way to get over guy and to mend your broken heart.