Into Motivation

It’s time to celebrate when you hit one of those 10 year anniversaries!

For some, this can be a great time for reflection and to look back at what you have achieved and how you have enjoyed your life so far. For others, reaching such a milestone can be a bit troubling, as you may fret whether you have really achieved enough and where you might be in another ten years.

We should all reflect on our stage in life, where we are personally, financially and emotionally. It’s also quite common for a woman, busy raising a family, to think about her sexual appeal and its effectiveness when she gets to the big 40.

As we get older, we tend to be more philosophical. Being philosophical is a result of experience as we have a lot to reflect on and a lot of positive knowledge to put in place. Each decade milestone will find us in a very different place in our book of life and we will look back on our memories in a different way and look forward to what we have ahead of us with a fresh perspective. As our interpretations change as we age, when you get to 40 you will definitely look at things in a different light as compared to ten years previously.

Things get better as we age, and as a 40-year-old mum, we are emotionally and mentally more secure and this by itself adds to our sexuality. Dignity comes naturally at this age and those elements of insecurity seem so far away.

We are much more composed, and know how to deal with any situation when it arises by displaying a sassy attitude, allowing us to feel inherently good about ourselves and to resolve problems with a lot more ease.

Thankfully, professional coaching solutions exist for mums at every stage of their life journey and can often help us to come to terms with our

milestones. It’s important to understand what “sexy” means and most importantly of all, what it means to you.

Maturity teaches us to celebrate everything we have, and make the most of how we look, even though we will certainly be different today than we were back then. Take a leaf from the page of those old screen heroines and present your best side to whatever camera approaches you. Emotionally and mentally, however it is likely that you are much sexier and more appealing for every year that you age.

Be secure in your status and believe in yourself and what you have achieved. Your children are a great reflection of you and you should be proud or both them and your partner. You have to love yourself before anyone else and this is at the essence of making life enjoyable. Seek out online life coaching experts if you feel a little overwhelmed when you are approaching or get to those special milestones that everyone makes such a big deal about!

Remember that life begins at 40 and when coaching for women in this position I often remind them that the biggest favour they can do themselves is to think and act “young.” Ask yourself this question – if you didn’t know what your actual age was, how old would you think you were? And no, it isn’t “90”! Fabulous 40 mum, go and get them!

Amanda Alexander, Director of Coaching Mums, helps pressure-cooked, stressed working mums who long for more hours in the day. Through her coaching programmes and online life coaching courses, Amanda shows mums how to create fulfilling and successful lives. For your simple 5 step guide to balance as a working mum, download our free eBook today!